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Child Training Tips For Raising Really Good Kids

We are having a great year as a result (in part) of the child training tips I’ll show you in this article! I want you to have them at your disposal, so your parenting can benefit from them too. These are just a few of the good habits that I began training in early childhood. Habits that I have been diligently training for years.

I’m going to give you 4 examples of early child training tips for kids under the age of 4 that you can begin today, so that you too, can find yourself in the midst of your best year ever.

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Examples of Child Training Tips

The first few years of a child’s life are some of the most moldable and formative years of life. Using the first 4 years to establish good habits and build a good behavior foundation with these child training tips will produce family and parenting benefits for years to come!

Once first 6 years of a child’s life has passed, the next extremely formative phase comes during adolesense. Those years are parented much differently than the first 6, so I can’t stress enough, the importance of making the most of the early childhood years!

happy little girl being a good kid because of early child training

Under two years

How do you want your baby to act? You may think you don’t have a say in the matter. After all, he’s a baby, right? He just acts like… a baby. No-so-much. You are an influencer.

How much sleep your baby gets, what he eats, wears, the language he develops, are all influenced by his parents. For an article dedicated entirely to the ins and outs of parenting a baby, read here.

Sleep training, in particular, is so important, it needs its own post. So, read about the importance of sleep training your baby here.

Under 2 yrs child training tip example #1.

  • What you want: You’ve just gotten yourself and your six-nine-month-old up and around for the day. Sweet baby is hungry and you really want to start training on solid food.
  • What you should do:Before nursing or a bottle: Take him to the table, sit him in his high-chair, and offer some small chunks of avocado. Small enough to be safe (the stuff is slick and slides right down) but big enough that tiny hands can clutch it. -Sit across from baby. -Talk. -Point to the food, encourage baby to pick it up, eat a bite yourself.
  • When he starts to get frustrated, squish a little with a baby fork and offer it to him. -After about 10 minutes, praise whatever effort was made and be done. Then, nurse or bottle feed him.

This sounds simple until you’ve tried it several times. Habit and child training take effort. So, offering baby the right foods (avocado instead of rice,) in the right way, when he is truly hungry, won’t produce instant results but it will be pay off if you are consistent and persistent.

Baby cereal and watery, pureed baby foods are not your only option for your baby’s first food (and not the best option.) Make food training a priority within the first year of life to greatly lessen the number of food battles you have as a toddler and preschooler.

Under 2 yrs child training tip example #2.

  • What you want: To understand your baby’s needs.
  • What you should do:  When your baby is walking she’ll stop at your leg, stretch her precious little chubby arms to you and grunt, “Ehh!” You know she wants to be picked up and you want to hold her. So pick her up. But first… make her ask for it. You can say something to this effect, “say, UP. Up. Up.”
  • As soon as she has made an attempt to speak something other than a grunt, praise her and pick her up to reward a job well done.

Repeat this process, every single time she asks for something in baby grunts. You’ll be building a great vocabulary for your baby. If not, you’ll be training your child how to be a really good grunter! Read more about toddler speech development here.

The goal is to get your baby using consonant sounds instead of grunts which are all wind and vowels.

When my children were babies, I regularly reminded myself, “You can not raise the same child twice. So, if your child ends up struggling with speech later in life, you won’t know if you could have better helped him unless you can look back and say, – I made every possible effort to teach/require them to use real words.”

Two to Four Years Old.

2-4 Yrs child training tip example #1.

  • What you want: A confident and capable child.
  • What you should do: Require your child to do what he can by himself.

Two, three and four-year-old’s want to do everything by myself!” Until they don’t. My two year old wants to wash dishes, let the dog out and wash his own hands. Then, upon entering a room, he calls for me to turn the light on.

I know he can reach the light switch. So I say, “you can turn the light on. Use your tippy-toes.” To which he replies, “No, I can’t reach it.”

How would you respond? The most obvious response is to turn the light on for the little guy… He can’t reach it.

Oh.. but he can.

A good child training tip sounds and looks like this:

  • “Come on bud, you can reach all by yourself. Use your tippy-toes, I’m here to help you if you need me.” As he stretches to reach, he’ll probably be able to get it. If he’s so close but not quite there yet, give his tiny body a lift, but make sure it’s HIS finger that does the switching.
  • Praise his effort, and restate what he just did. “You turned that light on all by yourself. You are very capable and I’m proud of your effort!”

Next time he needs the light on, he’s much less likely to say he can’t do it. Get him a stool like this to help him along.

Approach every training opportunity, of every day in this same way and you’ll have a capable and confident child. A child who understands when you say, “you’re going to do it by yourself,” that you mean it. Over time, your child begins to understand that he must do what Mommy says because she knows best, can keep him safe and wants the very best for him.

2-4 Yrs child training tip example #2.

  • What you want: A child who can communicate with other people.
  • What you should do: -Understand that successful people can communicate well with others. Take your child to a grocery store that gives away free cookies or treats. Ask her if she wants one. Tell her that she can have one if she asks for it herself. (Work on communication skills by reading aloud with books like this)

“Life doesn’t offer much that we don’t pursue.”

It’s certainly acceptable to give your child the words to use when asking for something. Make your local grocery store free cookie an opportunity to teach confidence, boldness, and getting what you are willing to go after. To get a cookie, you must ask for it yourself. Read more about speech development here.

Child Training Tips are Used So a Child Can Understand, Not When He Understands

You can be intentional to use these child training tips to raise a great kid. These are 4 examples you can start implementing right away. These habits will serve your child well throughout his whole life. The 5 Steps to Raising a Well-Behaved Child Workbook will show you a clear, step-by-step path to raising a delightful child, who’s a joy to be around! In the workbook, you’ll find every step you need to accomplish your parenting and family goals.

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3 Comments

  1. Wow, thank you very much. I will start implementing 1&2. So looking forward. Thanking you for giving me hope.

  2. What a great article! It’s such an encouraging reminder for me as my husband and I are raising/training two young girls. We literally have opportunities EVERY DAY to create/reinforce good habits. Most recently, we have focused on training our girls how to communicate respectfully to family/friends/strangers. We are teaching them it’s okay and normal to feel shy or nervous in conversation, but it’s never an excuse to be rude. We are training them to look the person in the eyes and respond with words, not head nods, waves, or looking the other way to pretend they didn’t hear! It definitely takes consistency, patience, and lots of practice, but we are seeing great progress! Thanks Shelley, for the reminder that all good habits much be intentionally modeled, taught, and reinforced. It definitely takes effort, but the reward of raising the next generation to be respectful and confident is well worth it.

    1. Thanks Stacy! Yes, indeed, we are training up the future. Whether intentionally or not… so if we want it to be great, we’d better be making a great effort! Makes my heart sing to hear personal stories of parents going the distance! Bless y’all!

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