I know you’re hurting. Believe me, I know! I have felt that heartache. Mad, sad and tired! Mad at myself for not being able to get my baby to sleep. Sad, because I wanted to be the world’s greatest mom, and tired of feeling like a failure because my baby wasn’t sleeping. I thought I knew how to sleep train a baby. But the reality was, I was believing a lie about baby sleep training. The same lie you are believing…
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Once you lay your baby down with all her needs met, the only thing she needs is sleep! When her belly is full she doesn’t need more food. When she’s been loved on all day, she doesn’t need snuggles. She’s not in great pain from teething (more on that another time.) She needs SLEEP! If you allow your fears to prevent you from sleep training, you are choosing your own comforts over her needs.
First – My How To Sleep Train A Baby Story.
I had a plan for sleep training my first born. I read ALL the books! And I was confident. Then, 2 months after he was born, I was shocked when I found myself at our pediatrician’s office, exhausted, discouraged, and desperate. My plan hadn’t worked. You see, my baby didn’t fuss for 10-15 minutes, then drift off to sleep like I was sure he would!
It just wasn’t that easy.
After explaining to my pediatrician the hopelessness I felt at that 2-month check-up, he said, “You have to do whatever you have to do to get some sleep!” Something about the way he said it hit me hard.
He couldn’t come out and say, put him on his belly, let him cry, or co-sleep, because of liability. BUT… he knew a desperate Mommy when he saw one. He was kind enough to look me in the eye and get the point across. Sleep is critical and my baby and I both needed to be getting it! I needed to get past my selfish fears over how to sleep train a baby!
This experience is what prompted me to come up with my own sleep training system that I was comfortable with and that would produce results! We’ll get to the sleep training guide I created, soon. For now, let’s talk about the scary words.
Next, The Scary Words.
When was the last time you read a sentence like this: Letting a baby cry can cause brain damage!?
That’s a lot of scary words: Cry. Damage. Brain.
Someone writes the articles we find these sentences in, right? And they must have gotten their information from somewhere, right?
What IS the truth behind these scary articles?
- Most of those studies were performed on grossly neglected babies. GROSSLY. NEGLECTED. Let me ask you; is your baby grossly neglected? No, I didn’t think so.
- Most of those studies were conducted by evolutionists and the CDC.
More Scary Words.
The Dangers of insufficient sleep in children:
- defiant behavior
- poor grades
- low attention span
- seeing the world in a negative light
- Lastly… Mental Disorders: Lack of sleep leads to various mental disorders like Attention Deficit Hyperactivity Disorder (ADHD) and depression source
Dangers of bad sleeping habits persisting into adulthood:
- memory loss
- trouble concentrating
- high blood pressure
- heart disease
- depression (there’s that word again)
- weakened immune system (more likely to get flu and colds) source
- Lastly… bad sleep increases levels of some proteins that are associated with Alzheimer’s disease. source
Don’t think that because your baby is a BABY that these side effects don’t apply. The habits you create in infancy will carry over into childhood.
Get some perspective.
I’ve been researching the importance of getting consistent, uninterrupted, good sleep for over a decade. The risk to your baby’s health from lack of sleep is real.
Let me ask you this: When was the last time you saw a mom walking around with a child who came out of her perfectly healthy, was not “grossly neglected” then suffered brain damage after appropriate sleep training?
Let me ask you another question: When was the last time you saw a mom walking through the grocery store with a defiant toddler? Or, the last time you heard a mom talk about her kid having a low attention span or trouble in school?
Answer #1: never.
Answer #2: all. the. freakin’. time.
Then Decide Who Is Responsible For Knowing How To Sleep Train A Baby.
Your baby can’t sleep and it’s likely your fault. Now, don’t go feeling all beat-up about it, like I did. Now that you know the risks from your baby not getting enough sleep, far outweigh the imaginary risks of sleep training, you’re going to fix it and that’s all that matters. He’ll be getting the sleep he needs soon.
It’s hard to look into the face of that precious baby and believe you will ever make a mistake with her. I was certain, I would win mommy awards. Here I am, all these years later and I have made mistakes! Oh girlfriend, how I have made mistakes! Sleep training was not one of them!
You can not raise the same child twice. There is no way to know whether you could have made a better decision. You can’t relive this life in a different way in order to preview two different outcomes ahead of time.
You must simply ask yourself what you can do to set your baby up for a successful life. Take the very best information, seek guidance, pray, and make a decision!
No Magic Sleep Button.
There is no magic button to get your baby to sleep through the night. There is no one word, trick, prayer, device or method that will do this for you. It’s up to you!
You’re going to need some supplies before you start.
- The most important being this sleep training guide. Without the guide, sleep training will be like assembling a jungle gym without instructions.
- Get an affordable sound machine here. Waterfall is the best setting for sleep training if you decide to use this sound machine.
- Or get the baby shusher here. (this wasn’t available when I had infants, or I would have gotten one.)
- Get the right kind of baby pajamas for sleep training success here.
- Lastly, get a great kitchen timer like this one here. Or you could also use the timer on your phone.
A note about pacifiers.
I like pacifiers, for a lot of reasons, (we don’t have time for today.) Overall, I think pacifiers are a good thing. However, they are not useful for sleep training. They will fall out of your baby’s mouth at night, and putting it back in every time it falls out is not good sleep training!
Finally, Your Baby Needs You To Be The Mommy.
Your baby needs consistent, uninterrupted sleep, in a bad, bad way! Some scary words are not true, but some are. It’s time to get some perspective, take responsibility for your baby’s sleep, and train her correctly! CLICK HERE TO READ ANOTHER POST LIKE THIS