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One Thing Every New Mom Needs To Know About Her Husband

Dear New Mommy who is immersed in motherhood: That’s you… Mommy. The one praying, saying, and doing all you can to give your little ones the best you have to offer. There’s something you should know. A fact every new mom needs to know about her husband: it will make you pause your busy-ness and smile big. So I am going to tell you…

every new mom needs to know about her husband, Man and woman holding hands on a wooden table.

Recently, after days and days of passing each other like ships in the night, my husband walked past me on his way to work. As he walked past, he paused, looked at me, and said, “I miss you!”

Say What?

I was so surprised. At that moment, I knew I needed to tell you that your husband misses you because it might be 15 years before he says it himself.

Have you noticed, men aren’t so much “with the words?” There’s a lot of biology and psychology to support that men are all about the visual and women are all about the audible.

Unfortunately, that means you don’t hear things like “I miss you” very much from your husband. Unless, of course, you said it first.

So I’m here to say it for him. Because it’s in his heart, it’s simply not coming out of his mouth.

One Thing Every New Mom Needs to Know About Her Husband

It doesn’t occur to your man to say things out loud. His thoughts and feelings are his own. He owns them like he owns his foot. They are a part of himself. To give them away is giving away a part of himself.

The Reality of Being a New Mom.

I remember being elbow deep into the first 5 years of motherhood and loving every second of it! I was in my element; changing diapers, training manners, and teaching letter sounds! I was so good at it; it made me feel good about myself.

During this time, I was also soberingly aware of the reality of motherhood. That being; My children will not be little long. Life is fleeting! As a result, I took two steps during those first few years that you should take as well.

To help fuel your desire to nurture your marriage while your little ones are so darn cute and super demanding of your time, I’m going to tell you a few more things your husband may be thinking but not saying.

What Else Does Your Husband Need You To Know?

#1. He really enjoyed being your favorite person before your baby came along.

#2. He likes hearing what you have to say.

#3. He wants you to hug and kiss him too.

#4. He misses how you would talk about him in front of or with other people.

#5. He misses the way you would plan to spend the evening.

#6. He missed you snuggling up to him in bed.

Your Husband Was There Before Your Baby

The truth is, there is a lot that has changed since you’ve had a child. I know you try to keep some balance and not forget about your husband. Really, I do. But, are you trying hard enough?

It’s easier to remember him and try even harder when you know it matters. Just know that he thinks and feels all the good things about you. …He does. I’m happy to be the one to tell you because I know it’s true.

Your husband misses you. He wants you to hug him, talk to him, and don’t forget about him. It takes a little bit of extra effort. Fortunately, men are pretty low maintenance, and a little is all he needs.


Hi there! I'm Mama Duck,

I'm a stay-at-home/work-at-home, homeschooling Mama of 4 beautiful kiddos, wife to my loving husband, Parenting Coach, Speaker, and Writer. I adore the sound of my children's giggles, that first sip of hot coffee, and a snuggly blanket fresh out of the dryer. Here on Faithful Parenting, my heart is to equip mamas with the skills, knowledge, and biblical wisdom to raise fantastic kids and build a tethered family!